A Parent’s Guide to Explaining Marriage to Children and Teens

God Created Our Our bodies

Mother and father, generally we get awkward questions like, How can two individuals develop into one flesh? The Bible says precisely how two individuals can develop into one flesh. That’s the place we have to go to in Genesis 2, the place this unimaginable language is used. Scripture says that husband and spouse develop into one flesh. And there’s a way through which that’s a really highly effective and vivid metaphor for his or her hearts uniting as one and for his or her wills uniting as one, but it surely goes deeper than simply romantic metaphors.

What Scripture is speaking about within the concept of being a one-flesh union is this concept that our our bodies are bodily made for each other. They’re made to suit with each other. When God establishes female and male within the very starting of Scripture, in Genesis 1, tied to their maleness and femaleness is the flexibility for them to breed, and so they reproduce in that romantic, intimate act that additionally makes them husband and spouse.

And what makes marriage so profound is that it unites a person and a lady on the deepest ranges of their being. It’s not simply that they’ve the identical affections for one another. It’s not simply that they love being collectively. It’s that their our bodies can uniquely match collectively. And in that coming collectively, their marriage is made actual. However in that very same act, youngsters can come forth.

So you might be considering, I don’t need to have this dialog with my youngsters. They aren’t prepared to speak about this matter but. And also you’re proper. Some children aren’t prepared to speak about this. And so you have to take into consideration the age and developmental stage of your youngsters and their maturity. So if you happen to had a really younger baby—round 4, 5, or six—you wouldn’t convey a few of these subjects up. However there are actually good biblical truths that they should know, like the truth that God created us with completely different our bodies. God created us to develop as much as be mommies and daddies, have youngsters, care for them, and create households that convey God glory.

And as soon as they transfer to the following stage of improvement—round eight, 9, or ten—you’ll begin to usher in the understanding that as a result of God created our our bodies in a different way, we really match collectively. And that becoming collectively bodily brings the flexibility to develop into mommies and daddies to youngsters. As soon as our children get to the pre-teen and teenage years, we do want to speak concerning the birds and bees actually with them and we do must embrace the awkwardness with our kids. We have to be those as mother and father to have that dialog with them, or tradition would be the one to do it for us. We have to discuss what sexuality is and that our our bodies are good. God created our our bodies for us. They’re good.

It’s good for them to suit collectively inside the confines of marriage, which is God’s good, unique pure plan. Marriage is sweet, and we create households with our our bodies, and that brings glory to God. Marriage is sweet. It’s good to be collectively as husband and spouse inside marriage.

Preserve the dialog open and sincere, particularly together with your preteens and youngsters. It’s fairly often that there could also be sexual errors which might be made. And so we need to, as mother and father, be forgiving and level them to Jesus’s forgiveness as nicely. So mother and father, embrace the awkwardness, be truthful, and be praying on your youngsters as nicely.

Andrew and Christian Walker are coauthors of What Do I Say When . . . ?: A Parent’s Guide to Navigating Cultural Chaos for Children and Teens.

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